I sit next to the bonfire where we held a “Fire Ceremony” yesterday. It was the first time I participated in a ceremony like this and I’m still shocked at how such simple things can be so significant.
We were in a group of 8 people including me and 4 more people were on the way. Each person, including those who are guiding us, is also living their journey, and it is a privilege to be part of this and somehow cross their path.
Here comes the power of the word. When we speak or write we are transmitting something, whether consciously or not. For example, when telling your personal life story, you may be saying something that will impact the life of whoever listens or reads, they may be living the same situation, but in an opposite role, and when you share your story you may be presenting a totally different point of view to that person, who by listening as an observer (outside the plot) may be able to gain a new perception of the situation.
And now, responsibility comes into play. And why the responsibility? Because you decide what kind of energy you will emanate when you verbalize something.
Will you choose anger? It’s okay if you want to choose it, sometimes, in fact, often, it is part of the process. It’s a step.
For a long time, I told my life story from the perspective of victimhood. Which was great for me, as it served me by gaining attention from people, drawing attention to my dramas, and feeding my ego.
Here fits an observation, that the ego, like everything else on this planet, has its Yin part and its Yang part, it is not all that bad, as it serves as our protection, it prevents us from going through different situations that could be avoided, so don’t condemn your ego. Embrace it and work on it.
Well, going back… at a certain point in my journey, as I acquired knowledge and connected with spirituality, I began to realize that I was not poor in my situation and that in fact, each situation I had faced served me well, making me stronger, to help me develop virtues necessary for my evolution.
Upon realizing this, I started to be grateful for my past, and my story, and consequently changed the way I told and tell my life story. Now I realize that instead of attracting people’s feelings of pity, I attract their admiration and sometimes I even serve as an inspiration.
If all this is also my ego talking, I will find out soon, because, like you, I am also here to learn.
May the Goddess be with you.
Milla Dalbem
Tilton, NH – May 30, 2020
